To be healthy, we will have to face that which we prefer not to face, given a choice. To be spiritually healthy we have to face our own fears, and journey into our own darkness. It is then we are strong enough to face the familiar challenge. The challenge that comes with belonging to a human, frail, finite family of origin. In so far as we allow ourselves to allow the process to happen within ourselves will we be bearer of the solution? As opposed to being contributors to the ongoing, and ever so developing dysfunction. Family life is messy, but as the messy-full-ness is dealt with the wonder-full and surprising gifts are bestowed on those who have the courage to dare face what is called "the family secret." "The secret," can be hidden, denied, medicated, but only for so long. It will eventually, and not in a very acceptable way, come into the light of day. That is a guarantee. "Whatever is whispered in darkness, will be shouted from the rooftops." I cannot count the number of times I have seen this dynamic become part of oh so many, many families' reality. Over these many, many, many years in ministry, I have come to accept, not understand, that the "holidays" seem to bring out the best, and the worst in individuals and families!!!
That saying: "Every blessing is a curse, and every curse is a blessing" is so very mysteriously true when it comes to family. Every family has "the family secret." Each individual's unhappinesses and difficulties can be traced in so many instances to their participation in the covering up and so denial of the secret which must be protected no matter what the cost. Many, many, oh so many sacrifice themselves to death rather than divulge that which is known, but never admitted. Kudos to all who are brave enough to speak the unspoken secret. In speaking your truth, you are being a force for good in the ongoing creation of this world. As you speak your truth, you must also accept that this is not you speaking, but The Spirit of Truth, God, within you. Whenever we are dealing with real truth there within lies The Divine Presence. As you speak the truth, you are never alone.